“Reach for the moon… & even if you miss… you’ll fall amongst the stars! ”
Audio - Personal Bio
My Personal Bio…
I spent a lot of my childhood in an anxious state constantly seeking the approval of my father. Attempts at expressing my emotional and psychological needs, those deemed normal for a child, were met unpredictably with detachment, contempt and physical violence. As a result I developed a maladaptive sense of the world and how to relate to others. My understanding of interrelating was learnt from this damaging experience and as I grew older my anxiety turned to anger, destructively affecting all my relationships… with family, friends and colleagues. However at the time I was unaware of this process.
To help manage the emotional pain of resentment, rejection and emptiness I started to use drugs.
I made a decision to become abstinent from drugs; I trained as a driving instructor, studied media at college and professional broadcasting at university. However with the intrinsic desire to abstain from drugs I relapsed twice but at the time couldn’t understand why.
A year later after searching into my spiritual existence and being intrigued by my own behaviour as well as that of others, I started studying towards a BSc Honours in Psychology. “EUREKA”… the answers were slowly being unlocked and the understanding I had been looking for faithfully, and what felt like most of my life, was being handed to me in what I interpreted as a gift. I have been abstinent and sober from drugs ever since.
So empowered by this experience I became a volunteer substance misuse worker in an addiction service. Within three months I secured a fulltime paid role as an aftercare worker and within 8 months I was promoted to team leader all the while being financially supported by my employers to complete studies towards a Masters in Addiction Psychology & Counselling.
I have since worked for the NHS as a Dual Diagnosis Practitioner training other clinicians, including psychiatrist, nurses, psychologists and social workers, in how to work effectively and thereby increase treatment outcomes with patients suffering dual-diagnosis issues. I also worked directly as a therapist with patients who experienced serious, complex issues as a result of their excessive substance use and severe mental illness.
The contract ran for a few years and after leaving the NHS I was given an amazing opportunity to work within a privately run 5* residential treatment centre in Thailand as an addiction therapist to very wealthy clients from all over the globe.
I returned to the UK to my incredibly missed family and friends, and took a leap in faith and fortitude by venturing out into my own private practice as a therapist, motivational speaker & trainer. My new enterprise, as you now know, is simply called ‘HABITS’.
I feel exceptionally blessed but have truly come to realise along my protracted, arduous and exuberant journey, that what we choose to think, what we choose to feel and what we choose to do in life is in our hands. Habits are born – through repetition… but habits are also broken – through replacement. I replaced my anguished mind and consequential behaviour with a desire to learn and understand myself followed by the act of doing that which would create the change.
I owe it all to Faith and to those people who saw the potential in me… supported me… nurtured me… and never gave up on me.
Audio - Professional Bio
My Professional Bio…
Living in a modern western society such as ours has its rewards. However with the various social, health, economic and spiritual pressures it can be equally daunting and stressful. Whilst some have the capacity to locate resources to cope with these stressors in a more healthier way, others have difficulty responding and adapting effectively and therefore rely on more unhealthier coping strategies that eventually become habitual and cause harm… mild to moderate harm for most, but for the unfortunate few, severe or fatal.
I have several years of private and professional experience in addiction and mental health. Delivering therapeutic programmes, training sessions and motivational workshops, I have worked for organisations in both the public and private sectors here in the UK and overseas. These include: SW London & St. George’s NHS MH Trust, Asia Health Co. & KCA.
I am thankful that my private and professional experience affords me passion, affinity and ability to work directly with people from diverse cultures and varied backgrounds.
Audio - Therapeutic Approach
My Therapeutic Approach…
In the course of my studies in psychology, I discovered that addiction is a habit (albeit a severe one) similar to all behaviours that we do on a constant, consistent & consciously unaware basis. In other words habitual behaviours (and thoughts) become so natural to us, we do them without giving it a second thought; this includes those related to mental health issues also.
In discovering that habits are, in simple terms, the repetition of action and entrenched patterns of thought, it is my goal and ambition to share this developmental process in a simple, pragmatic & formulated way, with all those I have the privilege of sharing a relationship with, both in my professional and personal life.
As an integrative therapist, I call upon a variety of therapeutic disciplines relevant and appropriate to the presenting needs of the individual. This is based on initial and continuous assessment of the client with the subsequent therapeutic approach tailor-made and agreed upon between me and each individual. Every human being has mental health each at varying degrees; the aim is to improve mental health that enhances personal competence, self-confidence and creative potential.
Initially trained in CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), Person-Centred Therapy, Motivational Enhancement Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, 12-Step Facilitation Therapy and Systemic Therapy (Family therapy), I have since added to my formal training Schema Therapy and Mindfulness both of which are fundamentally embedded within my therapeutic practice.
Having worked in the field for over 15 years, I have flexibility in my approach. giving me the ability to work with individuals or groups at most stages or degree of their addiction and/or mental health issue, utilising a formal or informal approach dependent on their existing presentation and historical report.
Audio - About HABITS
HABITS offers its services to those directly and indirectly affected with an emphasis on treating those who fall within the most disadvantaged and hard-to-engage population.
Addiction has no prejudice and mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety affects at least 1 in 4 of the UK population. In London alone, out of the 2 million of the 8 milllion residents affected by mental health issues… an astounding 1.6 million are from the BAME (Black, Asian & Minority Ethnics) group.
Whilst HABITS focuses on personal recovery, we utilise both preventative & curative approaches in the delivery of our services. Our overall objective is supporting people to make sustainable life changes through the development of enduring, healthy habits.
HABITS firmly believes there is no habit impossible to change if one has the desire & the capacity to make that change.
HABITS of London C.I.C | Registered in England & Wales | Company No: 10114035